When there are many words, sin is unavoidable, but the one who controls his lips is wise.
This was my memory verse from January 1.
This verse reminds me to think through what I'm going to say before I say it. Even if I know it's something I should say, pause..wait on it. Don't let my tongue control me. Don't let my thoughts erupt, but rather savor them.
I've done an awful job of this in 2011, but I've learned so much at the same time. I've learned that it's important to be honest, but more importantly I've learned that the way I am honest matters.
There's a difference between brutally honest and lovingly honest.
Brutally honest gives no care to the situation, the people involved, or the hearts of others.
Lovingly honest cares about how someone else will feel, think, and react.
I'm a good bit brutal when I feel strongly about something, which is unfortunate. I believe in standing strong for what I believe and in forming my own opinions, but that doesn't give me, or you, the right to walk all over someone else in the process. That's where love comes in -- love bears ALL things, even the strong opinions that may differ or potentially cause strife.
God calls us to be honest, but calls us to honesty in love.